Hard2Bluff
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I lost a good friend last week. I was in shock for days. But today Ive been crying. Same with my father, was good at the funeral, but cried later. Is this just me? Is this a man thing?
I see all the crying at funerals, but Im stone cold. I dont get it.You came out of shock and it hit you. Pretty common... Condolences...
I didn’t really show any emotion at my fathers funeral. It was like a year later, as I was driving down the road. Kenny Rogers “Coward of the county” started playing on the radio. It was one of my dads favorite songs. I completely fell to pieces, I had to pull over, and there I sat, on the side of the road, snot bubble, hyperventilating breakdown. For almost 2 hours. I was exhausted afterwards, but I finally came to terms with my fathers death. We all grieve differently.I lost a good friend last week. I was in shock for days. But today Ive been crying. Same with my father, was good at the funeral, but cried later. Is this just me? Is this a man thing?
So much this.I didn’t really show any emotion at my fathers funeral. It was like a year later, as I was driving down the road. Kenny Rogers “Coward of the county” started playing on the radio. It was one of my dads favorite songs. I completely fell to pieces, I had to pull over, and there I sat, on the side of the road, snot bubble, hyperventilating breakdown. For almost 2 hours. I was exhausted afterwards, but I finally came to terms with my fathers death. We all grieve differently.
Also, so much this.Everyone deals with death differently. And like PSUTE said, after the shock wears off it hits you sometimes. Also, some people feel responsible to be strong for others.
Sorry for your losses, H2B.I lost a good friend last week. I was in shock for days. But today Ive been crying. Same with my father, was good at the funeral, but cried later. Is this just me? Is this a man thing?
Sorry for your loss man.I lost a good friend last week. I was in shock for days. But today Ive been crying. Same with my father, was good at the funeral, but cried later. Is this just me? Is this a man thing?
I forgot the quote or who said it, but the living is always an audience and doesnt think about their own mortality. Thanks, man.For those that die when their time comes, most have the opportunity to come to terms with the reality of taking the next step in life. They are the lucky ones. Some take that journey at a moment's notice, way too young.
The rest is for those of us left to deal with in our own way and in our own time.
The ugly part of death is that it forces us to face our own. Sadness and struggle is just our way of projecting our fear of taking our turn. Yes, we love those that pass. Yes, we hurt because they are gone. But the ultimate struggle is with facing our own mortality.
Your loss saddens me, my friend. It truly does. I wish you the best in finding peace with your loss, and your realization of your own mortality.