Welp, I told the kids their mom is having an affair

Nod4Eight said:
I know how hard it can be, trust me. But please do the best to shield your kids from this shit. It's gonna be hard enough on them as it is. It's your job as their dad to protect them.

I'll get off my soapbox now.
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I know, the very second it rolled off my tongue I regretted it. They found out I was moving out by overhearing her at work talking to coworkers.
 
Be careful with the new girlfriends in public, until things are decided permanently. Wifey probably has someone with a camera stalking you (been around the court system for decades, seen it all) in case there's a custody battle. The kids will be getting everything they want, so she can be the favored parent.
 
RuffledFeathers said:
Be careful with the new girlfriends in public, until things are decided permanently. Wifey probably has someone with a camera stalking you (been around the court system for decades, seen it all) in case there's a custody battle. The kids will be getting everything they want, so she can be the favored parent.
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I didn't think about this one, I had fried shrimp on the brain. Excellent suggestion.

It's probably a good idea to remove most of what's posted here and any regular social media.

I'll gladly can what I've posted upon request or a mod can.
 
Please don’t involve your children. Children need both parents whether the parents are together or not. You and their mother will always be their guidance throughout their lives and that will never change. You and your future ex can not be replaced by any other person. The pain of a relationship breakup is one of the greatest known to us as human beings. The hurt , resentment, anger, jealousy, these are things Satan needs to drive a permanent wedge between you and your children.....he thrives in chaos.
I know it hurts, I’ve been through it too. The best approach is to keep your mouth shut to your children about their mother. It’s easy to lash out in pain and get that simple gratification for such a short time, but it only leads to more crosses to bear later. Be a strong man for your children as they look up to you. Let them know that you will always be available to them and whether you are with their mom or not will never change that. Let them know that your love for them never waivers, as our Fathers never waivers for us as His children. We make mistakes, we always will.......but we can recognize those mistakes and become better parents for our kids. Acknowledge your pain, find forgiveness, and be that father your kids need.
 
@Knee_Draggin' I've been thinking about this thread for a day or two now, and I want to respond and offer some insight or something.. Like all of our message board friends, I feel like I know a bit about your personality through your post' over the years,,
Without a doubt, I believe you are a good man. a lot of us here have gone through a similar experience and want to offer help if we can.. You scared us a week or so ago and I hope when you realized that there are people who still care, it gave you some comfort..

you are probably not here for counseling and nobody here (probably) is truly qualified to offer any.. It plain sucks that you have had this mountain dropped in your path. there's no other way to put it.. but you can come out the other side of this,, and more than likely be a stronger man for it..

I'm going to copy and paste something I looked up about grief just in case you might be interested.. and if you would like to talk sometime,, pm me and I'll give you my number,, I probably cant do more than listen,, but I can do that well..

Stay strong my brother :)

Grief is personal and individual, and every person experiences its nuances differently. Your personality, your support system, your natural coping mechanisms and many other things will determine how loss will affect you. There are no rules, no timetables, and no linear progression. Some people feel better after a few weeks or months, and for others it may take years. And in the midst of recovery there may be setbacks — this nonlinear process can’t be controlled. It’s critical that you treat yourself with patience and compassion and allow the process to unfold.
Below you’ll find some insights into the stages and symptoms of grief. We’ve also collected some advice from professionals about how to best get through the grieving process. We hope that the following information will help you reach a place in your process where, in spite of your grief, you are better able to function and live on a daily basis.
Grief is often described in stages, though each stage may last for a different period of time — for some people, the stages may be briefer or longer than for others, and some people may not experience all of them. But acknowledging that you may experience some or all of these stages will help you understand what may be happening. And you should not pass judgment on yourself or allow others to — you have the right to grieve and to fully experience your grief. Your feelings are normal, and it’s important to remember that at some point, it will get better. You may not get over your loss, but you will survive it. The five general stages of grief, as described by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross:
Denial: This can’t be happening.
Anger: Why did this happen? Who is to blame?
Bargaining: Make this not happen and I will…
Depression: I can’t bear this; I’m too sad to do anything.
Acceptance: I acknowledge that this has happened, and I cannot change it.
While the five stages of grief may appear to be steps in a process, they are not. Even Kübler-Ross said that the stages are not meant to neatly package up grief — there is no typical loss and no typical grief. Grieving is as individual as we are and is not a linier process.
 
Kids already knew that something wasn't right.

Watch ur 6. Be careful until it's finale.
Ride them new girl friends. Wrap it before you tap it.
 
ah ha, now I see what you were talking about bud.

I don't have any advice or wise words or anything like that.... but if you wanna drunk post I am your guy, you know that.


Anyway, here is a Blue October song talking shit about these type of things and music and whiskey is how I deal with my shit so...


 
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