When is it Time to Hang it Up?

Big 8 Rules said:
Focus on the kids. If you’re helping them, that’s why you do it. They’re the ones who are going to remember you anyway. To hell with the parents.

“We don’t stop playing because we get old. We get old because we stop playing”
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This.
 
Basement Bias said:
Thank you for the kind words & prayers for our family. I know the Lord doesn't give us more than we can handle and this will strengthen our family. It's definitely been tough and I don't know if this broken feeling will ever change. I do know that I have to be my family's rock regardless if does or not.
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Be a rock for your family but you’ve also got to let yourself feel what you need to feel when you need to feel it. Make sure you’re leaning on who you can as well. And there’s nothing wrong with letting your family see that you’re struggling yourself. That’s part of being the rock.
 
Well I'll probably exhaust myself but deciding to just go all in with helping coach my kids' teams or just helping them & other family members. The miscarriage has been tough but we have weathered the storms and will continue to do so.

At the time of the miscarriage, I was helping coach my son in youth wrestling in Indiana. It was a tough season as we got our butt's kicked but had a really young team. Stubbornly I hope we can both be on that one again & finish better. I'll probably also go back to coaching our old Ohio youth club as my successor asked if I could help him this upcoming season & my daughter wants to try full go in girls wrestling. Before that I'm helping again to coach Coach Pitch (5-7 co-ed baseball/softball) for my daughter's team. Can also fill in to help my sons baseball 8-11 (farm league) team if needed. Then my 4H leader duties, then flag football president/commissioner/coach of Pre-k to 4th grade, and 5th & 6th tackle football board member. Adding K & 1st girls soccer coaching as well (I have little soccer knowledge). Wouldn't be surprised if I have to add helping boys & girls hoops during wrestling season too.

Meanwhile the older 3 are in FFA, two maybe more getting into livestock open shows, one in HS hoops, one in MS football, basketball, & wrestling just as a step parent. So I may run myself in the ground but I'm doing it for my kids/stepkids, nephews/nieces, and close cousins' kids. After my January pain, I'm not letting anyone get to me like the past. They can't hurt me as I've suffered the worst. So those in Northeast/East Central Indiana & Northwest/West Central Ohio look out as we will be coming guns blazing in soccer, football (flag & tackle), basketball, wrestling, baseball, softball, 4H/FFA/livestock shows, dance, and etc.
 
Basement Bias said:
Well I'll probably exhaust myself but deciding to just go all in with helping coach my kids' teams or just helping them & other family members. The miscarriage has been tough but we have weathered the storms and will continue to do so.

At the time of the miscarriage, I was helping coach my son in youth wrestling in Indiana. It was a tough season as we got our butt's kicked but had a really young team. Stubbornly I hope we can both be on that one again & finish better. I'll probably also go back to coaching our old Ohio youth club as my successor asked if I could help him this upcoming season & my daughter wants to try full go in girls wrestling. Before that I'm helping again to coach Coach Pitch (5-7 co-ed baseball/softball) for my daughter's team. Can also fill in to help my sons baseball 8-11 (farm league) team if needed. Then my 4H leader duties, then flag football president/commissioner/coach of Pre-k to 4th grade, and 5th & 6th tackle football board member. Adding K & 1st girls soccer coaching as well (I have little soccer knowledge). Wouldn't be surprised if I have to add helping boys & girls hoops during wrestling season too.

Meanwhile the older 3 are in FFA, two maybe more getting into livestock open shows, one in HS hoops, one in MS football, basketball, & wrestling just as a step parent. So I may run myself in the ground but I'm doing it for my kids/stepkids, nephews/nieces, and close cousins' kids. After my January pain, I'm not letting anyone get to me like the past. They can't hurt me as I've suffered the worst. So those in Northeast/East Central Indiana & Northwest/West Central Ohio look out as we will be coming guns blazing in soccer, football (flag & tackle), basketball, wrestling, baseball, softball, 4H/FFA/livestock shows, dance, and etc.
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You are an amazing man and we are still praying for y'all. The last time I was involved in my community, they were raising money for me a bus ticket to well, anywhere else. God bless you and yours.
 
batchaps4me said:
You are an amazing man and we are still praying for y'all. The last time I was involved in my community, they were raising money for me a bus ticket to well, anywhere else. God bless you and yours.
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Thanks for the prayers! I'm not amazing, just trying to be involved. I'm sure some people on both sides of the line would like to send me off. Not letting them stop me or discourage me this time. It's about the kids having fun and being a role model. Maybe I'll be able to get my cousins & brother to help in different activities besides the coaches I enjoy coaching with.
 
Basement Bias said:
Well I'll probably exhaust myself but deciding to just go all in with helping coach my kids' teams or just helping them & other family members. The miscarriage has been tough but we have weathered the storms and will continue to do so.

At the time of the miscarriage, I was helping coach my son in youth wrestling in Indiana. It was a tough season as we got our butt's kicked but had a really young team. Stubbornly I hope we can both be on that one again & finish better. I'll probably also go back to coaching our old Ohio youth club as my successor asked if I could help him this upcoming season & my daughter wants to try full go in girls wrestling. Before that I'm helping again to coach Coach Pitch (5-7 co-ed baseball/softball) for my daughter's team. Can also fill in to help my sons baseball 8-11 (farm league) team if needed. Then my 4H leader duties, then flag football president/commissioner/coach of Pre-k to 4th grade, and 5th & 6th tackle football board member. Adding K & 1st girls soccer coaching as well (I have little soccer knowledge). Wouldn't be surprised if I have to add helping boys & girls hoops during wrestling season too.

Meanwhile the older 3 are in FFA, two maybe more getting into livestock open shows, one in HS hoops, one in MS football, basketball, & wrestling just as a step parent. So I may run myself in the ground but I'm doing it for my kids/stepkids, nephews/nieces, and close cousins' kids. After my January pain, I'm not letting anyone get to me like the past. They can't hurt me as I've suffered the worst. So those in Northeast/East Central Indiana & Northwest/West Central Ohio look out as we will be coming guns blazing in soccer, football (flag & tackle), basketball, wrestling, baseball, softball, 4H/FFA/livestock shows, dance, and etc.
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Great job dad and coach
 
Basement Bias said:
Thanks for the prayers! I'm not amazing, just trying to be involved. I'm sure some people on both sides of the line would like to send me off. Not letting them stop me or discourage me this time. It's about the kids having fun and being a role model. Maybe I'll be able to get my cousins & brother to help in different activities besides the coaches I enjoy coaching with.
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Prayer just sent, brother.
 
Another day I've been dreading both Mother's Day & May 10th all in one. Mother's Day as it's the first since losing baby Nolan. Nothing is going to make today easier for my wife.

May 10th is the 24th anniversary of losing a friend & classmate to a house fire. Her mom & my mom are best friends & we grew up together. We were in the same classroom the year she passed. I had stuck up for her as a group of bitches wanted to be bullies then. Her family was in the middle of a remodel so they stayed the night at her great grandmother's old house across from my mom’s cousin. He ended saving her mom & little brother that day but couldn't find her as she became disoriented and separated from her mom & baby brother. I know that haunted him up until his death in 2023.
 
Basement Bias said:
Another day I've been dreading both Mother's Day & May 10th all in one. Mother's Day as it's the first since losing baby Nolan. Nothing is going to make today easier for my wife.

May 10th is the 24th anniversary of losing a friend & classmate to a house fire. Her mom & my mom are best friends & we grew up together. We were in the same classroom the year she passed. I had stuck up for her as a group of bitches wanted to be bullies then. Her family was in the middle of a remodel so they stayed the night at her great grandmother's old house across from my mom’s cousin. He ended saving her mom & little brother that day but couldn't find her as she became disoriented and separated from her mom & baby brother. I know that haunted him up until his death in 2023.
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That's tough. My condolences to you and your wife.
 
Basement Bias said:
Another day I've been dreading both Mother's Day & May 10th all in one. Mother's Day as it's the first since losing baby Nolan. Nothing is going to make today easier for my wife.

May 10th is the 24th anniversary of losing a friend & classmate to a house fire. Her mom & my mom are best friends & we grew up together. We were in the same classroom the year she passed. I had stuck up for her as a group of bitches wanted to be bullies then. Her family was in the middle of a remodel so they stayed the night at her great grandmother's old house across from my mom’s cousin. He ended saving her mom & little brother that day but couldn't find her as she became disoriented and separated from her mom & baby brother. I know that haunted him up until his death in 2023.
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I know t's & p's seems trite. But know positive vibes are sent.
 
batchaps4me said:
God bless and keep y'all. I can't begin to imagine going through that and will keep y'all in our prayers
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LyquidMetal said:
I know t's & p's seems trite. But know positive vibes are sent.
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Thanks to both of you and everyone else for the continued prayers & support. Made it through yesterday. Now to get through Father's Day weekend. It's the day before our anniversary which basically was Nolan's due date. That's going to test me as I know people are going to want to do cook outs & etc for it but I won't have much desire for any of that.
 
Basement Bias said:
Another day I've been dreading both Mother's Day & May 10th all in one. Mother's Day as it's the first since losing baby Nolan. Nothing is going to make today easier for my wife.

May 10th is the 24th anniversary of losing a friend & classmate to a house fire. Her mom & my mom are best friends & we grew up together. We were in the same classroom the year she passed. I had stuck up for her as a group of bitches wanted to be bullies then. Her family was in the middle of a remodel so they stayed the night at her great grandmother's old house across from my mom’s cousin. He ended saving her mom & little brother that day but couldn't find her as she became disoriented and separated from her mom & baby brother. I know that haunted him up until his death in 2023.
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Praying man. I know it’s rough.

I lost one in 2012 but had my first son in 2013. Just think it was want God intended.

Lost my friend Heather Rossi in 1992. Family house fire. She was 16. Got out of the house and went back in and saved her little brother. She will alway be a hero.
 
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