Marriage advice.....

RTR...USN (ret) said:
Men are problem solvers, it’s how we’re wired genetically. Women for the most part are not. There are exceptions of course, but generally this is true. No matter what the problem is, we identify it, come up with options, weight the pros, cons, and risks and then make a decision that we feel makes the most sense based on those criteria. One of the times my wife was the most pissed off at me ever was when she came to talk to me about something that was bothering her. I immediately gave her options and how I thought she should handle it. She yelled I DONT WANT YOUR DAMN OPINION ON WHAT TO DO, I JUST WANT YOU TO LISTEN! Sometimes she just wants you to listen, hold her , comfort her and let her get it off her chest.
And NEVER lie to her. I don’t know how but women always find out the truth. Always! And it never ends well.
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I try and tell her the solution and she tells me she just needs to vent and my job is to listen.

LOL.
 
djroxalot said:
This thread got quite the turnout......LOL.
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Sorry I missed it yesterday but here are my best lines of advice:
1. Always answer a question with a question, Memorize the following: "maybe, what do you think".
2. Apologize. It don't matter, apologize again. Apologize until you can be woken from a drunken stupor saying "I'm sorry".
3. Learn to accept that if you tell her something specific is wrong with her car/the house, she will not believe it util someone else tells her the same damned thing.
4. IF you are going to argue, learn how women argue:
 
fritowrdo said:
After being married for more than 2 decades, I have no advise. Also have 3 daughters and still do not understand them.
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I feel your pain... that's why I had to go with the lawyer option. My youngest argues just like my ex and it drives me nuts. The fact that she and her mother never could reconcile before my ex's death still infuriates her... she is a carbon copy of her mother. Too much pride and bottled up anger in one body.
 
Tenncock said:
I feel your pain... that's why I had to go with the lawyer option. My youngest argues just like my ex and it drives me nuts. The fact that she and her mother never could reconcile before my ex's death still infuriates her... she is a carbon copy of her mother. Too much pride and bottled up anger in one body.
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When the mother daughter thing goes down I usually just keep my mouth shut and leave. If I open my mouth I have a daughter and spouse going against me.
 
Also remember that your wife knows every inch of your house, so never try to hide something because they have already been through all of your shit and monitor it on a daily basis. And Im just talking about trivial stuff that you want to keep to yourself. Im pretty sure mine dusts for finger prints when Im at work. If you have a garage, you may be able to get away with something.
 
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